That first meeting with a sexual abuse attorney can feel both empowering and terrifying — and that’s completely normal. You’re sitting across from someone to talk about one of the most painful experiences of your life, often for the first time. As a survivor myself and as an advocate who now supports others through this process, I want to make sure you feel informed and emotionally prepared before you walk into that room.
Here’s what you can expect — and what you can do to take care of yourself before, during, and after that meeting.
1. You don’t have to have it all together.
You don’t need every document or perfect memory. Trauma can impact how we recall events, that’s normal and expected. Our trauma-informed staff understand trauma and its impact emotionally. You are in safe hands. Bring what you have: dates, emails, journal notes, or simply your story in your own words. The legal team will help you piece together what’s needed.
2. Bring what helps you feel grounded.
Maybe that’s a trusted friend, a support person, or something tangible that brings calm, a stone, token, or a fidget. Bring a notebook and write your own list of questions ahead of time. It is normal to feel nervous and once you arrive, to feel some trauma indicators rise within-this is normal and our attorneys understand that. You’re not being interviewed; you’re having a conversation about your experience and options. You are in control and you get to dictate where the conversation goes.
3. Expect transparency, not pressure.
At Andreozzi + Foote, we walk you through each step, what information we’ll need, and what happens next. You will never be pushed into decisions before you’re ready. Your pace matters, your comfort matters, and your voice matters. Remember, this is your story. You are in the driver’s seat.
4. Take care of yourself afterward.
These conversations can and will stir up memories and emotions. Plan something restorative for after the meeting, a walk, a call with someone you trust, or quiet time to decompress. Engage in whatever self-care works for you. Healing and justice both take courage, and even small steps forward are victories.
If you’re preparing to meet with an attorney, please remember: you are not expected to be “put together” or “strong.” You already are strong for showing up. Our job is to make sure you feel supported, informed, and empowered every step of the way.
This message comes from the desk of victim advocate Jennifer Storm at Andreozzi + Foote. If you or someone you love needs support or legal guidance, contact our team anytime at 866-311-8640 or reach out through our contact form—we’re here to listen.